Its Christmas time. I wonderful time of the year, but also a time where emotions run high as do feelings of disappointment. While I love Christmas, in previous years I have tried to cram too much in trying to please everyone and do everything. The end result is usually tears on Christmas day because I am tired, stressed, and rushing around with not enough time to do what I want to do and what I feel like I have to do.
This year I have been attending Mom2Mom at church and one of the things that resonated with me was the idea of saying no. I made it my personal goal for the holiday season to only fit in what we really want to do and what we can realistically do. It is easier to say no this year because Rachel's well being is influenced by our level of activity as well as my stress level. I am also learning I am not responsible for other people's happiness. This is a hard lesson and I frequently shoulder the responsibility when others are unhappy.
A couple weeks ago Brian and I sat down and discussed what was important to us this holiday season and mapped out a plan. We have very similar desires and came to decisions very quickly. So far this year we are all relaxed and happy in the Bjork household other than Rachel who is in the middle of a growth spurt. :)
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
Learning to say, "No"
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I am so happy you have learned that lesson. It is such an important one. It is so important that you make your own traditions. As your mom and mother-in-law to Brian, I want you to do what is best for your family. Hey your dad and I will always work around your needs. Hey that is what parents do. You always have my support. Christmas is really about Jesus and why he came to earth. Not meant to be a stressful time. Enjoy this holiday. I love you and your sweet family. What a blessing you are in my life, my wonderful daughter!
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